Divorce can be a difficult experience for everyone involved – especially
children. Children of separating parents typically experience difficulty
coping with the tumultuous change and will react differently depending
on their age, personality, and the unique circumstances surrounding the
divorce. It is not uncommon for children of divorce to feel lost and confused,
with many feeling as if they are the cause of their parents’ separation.
While most parents in Ohio courts strive to make decisions with the best
interest of their children in mind, others may become so consumed with
getting back at their soon-to-be ex-spouse that they forget how their
actions affect their children, even going so far as using their children
as bargaining chips to gain the upper hand in divorce proceedings. Fortunately,
there are several things that divorcing parents can do to make the process
easier for them and ensure their wellbeing is protected.
Break the news gently: Once you have made the decision to separate, sit your children down and
have a heart-to-heart conversation about what is happening and how it
will affect them. If you can, make sure both parents are present and leave
out all feelings of anger and guilt. Reassure them that your love for
them has not changed and that your separation is not their fault.
Do not badmouth the other parent: It is important to remember that your ex is still your child’s
parent, and that there is still likely a strong relationship between them.
Respect this relationship and refrain from verbally bashing the other
parent in front of them. Likewise, keep all emotionally-charged conversations
behind closed doors and shield them from visible conflict.
Listen to their feelings: Validating your child’s feelings can be greatly beneficial towards
the healing process, even if you do not agree with what they have to say.
If they do not feel comfortable talking just yet, let them know you are
available whenever they are ready.
Talk with your spouse: As difficult as it may be, make an effort to talk with your spouse and
discuss what is best for your children. Put their needs first when considering
custody and visitation arrangements and make an effort to negotiate an agreement
that fosters a healthy relationship with both parents.
Consider counseling: Nobody should have to go through a divorce without any support, especially
children. Provide your children with the opportunity to speak with a counselor,
therapist, or religious leader and express their emotions in a healthy,
If you are facing a divorce in Ohio, contact our compassionate Dayton divorce
attorneys at Gounaris Abboud, LPA. Our team will work with you to ensure
your divorce is completed as smoothly as possible and that your children’s
best interests are kept in mind every step of the way.
To find out what our 30+ years of combined
family law experience can do for you, call (937) 660-8429 or
schedule a confidential case review online today.